Gladys would have two weeks with her baby girl before she would have to do what she had agreed to
do: Before her mother had left town, Gladys had agreed to hand over the infant to a stranger, Ida
Bolender. During those two weeks, something dreadful occurred, making it clear that the arrangement
made between Della and Ida was necessary. A friend and coworker of Gladys’s at Consolidated Studios
named Grace McKee came by the house to take care of the baby for an afternoon while Gladys went
grocery shopping. (Grace would play a very important role in the lives of Gladys and Norma Jeane in
years to come.) When Gladys returned, she went into a manic state for reasons unknown and began to
accuse Grace of poisoning the child. One thing led to another, and somehow Grace ended up on the
receiving end of a kitchen knife, stabbed by Gladys. Though Grace’s wound was superficial, it was
clear that Gladys could be a danger to her baby. After that violent episode, which panicked and
bewildered everyone, it was an easy decision to turn Norma Jeane over to Ida.
The emotionally charged transfer happened on June 13, 1926—that was the sad day Gladys Baker
showed up on Ida Bolender’s doorstep with a two-week-old infant. After a long and difficult farewell,
she walked out the front door of Ida’s house without the child named Norma Jeane Mortensen. *
Norma Jeane was a help less infant who had entered this world without any form of welcome. There
was no freshly furnished nursery awaiting her, no tiny wardrobe, and in fact no one on earth whose
future plans included her. She spent the first few days of her life simply being sustained, not nurtured.
She was a burden, one that needed to be unloaded. No one can know for certain, but it very well may
have been at a tender age that she began to sense that something wasn’t quite right in her world—that
there wasn’t sufficient attention being paid her. Indeed, she would spend much of the rest of her life
trying to change those circumstances—but to do so, she would need to one day become… Marilyn
Monroe.
Della’s Terrible Fate
Within just days of surrendering Norma Jeane to Ida and Albert Wayne Bolender, Gladys Baker began
to feel remorse over the decision. “It occurred to her, I think, that maybe she could have done for this
child what her mother had not done for her—love her, be there for her,” said one of her family
members. The deal was that she would pay the Bolenders twenty-five dollars per week to raise Norma
Jeane, which she did the entire time Norma Jeane was in their care. In the beginning, though, she gave
them a few extra dollars a week so that she could stay with them on occasional weekends and at least
be with her baby. That didn’t last long, though. “The truth was that Gladys had a problem watching Ida
raise her child,” said Mary Thomas-Strong, whose mother was a close friend of Ida’s. “Ida could be
strict and controlling. She felt she knew what was right. She was a professional mother, in a sense. She
wanted to have her way with Norma Jeane and it was hard for Gladys to be on the sidelines. Therefore,
she moved back to Hollywood determined to visit the baby every weekend. She was back and forth a
lot.” In a 1930 census the Bolenders and Gladys were reported to live all in the same household.
Adding to Gladys’s bewilderment at this time was the arrival of her mother, Della, who returned from
India with malaria. Her “husband” Charles Grainger decided not to come back to the States with her,
leaving most people to believe that their relationship was over. Della was delusional and sick with a
fever for many weeks. It took a terrible toll on her.
In summer of 1927, Della walked across the street from her home to the Bolenders’ with the intention
of seeing Norma Jeane. She banged on the front door, but Ida didn’t want to let her into the house. It’s
unknown why Ida took this position, but she may have felt that Della was out of control and a danger to
the baby. Indeed, Della broke the door’s glass with her elbow and let herself in. The family history has
it that she confronted Ida and said she believed that Norma Jeane was dead and that no one had told her
or Gladys. Alarmed and not knowing how to handle the situation, Ida let Della see Norma Jeane
sleeping in her crib. She went to get Della a glass of water and when she returned she found Della
smothering the baby with a pillow. “Ida became almost hysterical,” said one friend of Gladys’s in the
telling of the story. “She grabbed the child. Della said that the baby’s pillow had slipped and she was
simply readjusting it. But Ida was very upset and demanded that Della leave the house.” Marilyn
Monroe—and even the Bolenders—would tell variations of this story many times over the years.
“Ida and Wayne called the police,” said Mary Thomas-Strong. “When they came, they found a very
mixed-up Della babbling incoherently. With Norma Jeane crying in her bedroom, and Ida shouting
accusations at Della, it was such a chaotic scene the police didn’t know what to do about it. So they
escorted Della back to her house and left her there. What they should have done was taken her to a
hospital.”
For a long time, Della had been filled with an aching sadness. Now it was not only more acute but had
also turned into abject anger directed at whoever happened to be in the room with her—and
unfortunately, that was usually Gladys, who had recently moved in with her mother to care for her.
After a battery of tests, it was determined that Della was suffering from a weakened heart, and probably
heart disease as well. Of course, that diagnosis certainly did not account for her many years of
unpredictable behavior, which had started back when she gave birth to her children. Once she began
taking the prescribed medication, things went from bad to worse. Her swift decline reminded some
family members of the sudden descent into madness that had been suffered by Della’s late husband,
Otis. Gladys couldn’t help but fear the worst. The horrifying likelihood was that the same thing that had
happened to her father was now afflicting her mother.
A few nights after Gladys moved into the house with her, Della came rushing into her bedroom
screaming that Charles Grainger had broken into the house and raped her. Gladys didn’t even have to
check the property to verify that Grainger wasn’t on it—she just knew he wasn’t. However, there was
no calming Della that night. A couple of days later, she started to complain that the local butcher had
put shards of glass in her ground beef. Then, a week later, on August 1, Della took a turn for the worse,
so much so that Gladys and Grace had to rush her back to the doctor. “He said there was no doubt about
it, Della needed to be institutionalized,” said Mary Thomas-Strong. “Gladys couldn’t believe it. She
wasn’t going to allow it. But then the strangest thing happened.”